Four women share their experiences of getting engaged

By: JeffreyThurber

Four women share their experiences of getting engaged after just three months of dating

Some couples may be together for a decade or more before they tie the knot. Others, however, are able to find their perfect match in no time. While there may not be a rhyme or reason why some couples take longer to find their match, most people are desperate to know the answer. It’s amazing that you can make such an important, life-changing decision in so little time. This is especially true when you have lived your entire life without them. Sometimes it all comes down to a strong, magnetic connection. Celebrities are witnessing this more often than ever. Hailey Baldwin and Justin Bieber got engaged within a matter of months, as did Pete Davidson (and Ariana Grande). It’s not a rare phenomenon. These lightning-fast engagements are more common than ever.

Jacquelynn and her husband met while on a business trip to St. Tropez in France. She describes, “It was love from the first sight and felt right throughout our brief, but very romantic, courtship.” “Despite being older, we both had past relationships behind us. After just three months of dating, the two fell in love. “Obviously, we didn’t really know each other well in retrospect but we learned as the months went by.”

However, it doesn’t matter how the couple first meets. Sasha H. met her husband, Michael, through the dating app Bumble. She says that it was obvious from the moment they met in person that he was meant for her. She explains, “I’ve always heard people saying, ‘You just don’t know when it’s right.’ And that’s exactly how it was with me.” We travel together, work together, and within months we both knew we would build a life together. She advises others who feel an instant connection to trust their instincts. She says, “We made the conscious decision to be together for good even after only months of dating and are now taking proactive steps to ensure we practice self-care so that we can show up for one another.” Premarital counseling can help to teach conflict resolution skills and effective communication.

Matt, Kim W.’s husband says that he knew he would marry her on the same day they met at a Jimmy Buffet concert. Matt invited Kim to California to attend a family wedding a month later. Kim says that was when she knew she had found “the one”. “In the short time we had known each other, I was able to meet so many of his friends and see how Matt interacted in his extended family. She says that he was warm, funny, and generous, and it was obvious that his family thought he was special.” We told everyone that we were getting married right away, and almost did! They were married a few weeks later. The couple have been together for 20 years, building a family and raising two wonderful children.

Ishveen A. met her husband, Kirat through friends. Their first contact was via email, as he was in New York City while she was in London. Both were religiously affluent and had many things in common. They both were entrepreneurs who had both left investment banking and management consulting careers. They spoke for the first time three days after being introduced. The call lasted seven hours. Ishveen flew to New York for a week ten days later. “At the end the week, I met his grandmother, told her that we would be getting married, and we were engaged a month later!”

Although their courtship was short, she says that marriage is all about adapting and accommodating each other, regardless of how long you have been dating. She says that people change over time and it is necessary to adjust in order to stay on the same page. “If you’re on the same page, have enough common values, and can live together forever, be exclusive and build a family, and love your families together, it doesn’t matter how long you’ve known each other.”